Dating is a delicate topic that can be hard to navigate. Everyone is looking for someone to share their lives with, and yet it can be so easy to drive someone away when you say the wrong things.
Whether you are meeting someone for the first time, or have been together with someone for a while, it is always a good idea to know what you should and should not say on a date. We have compiled some dos and don’ts of dating conversations that will help you have better conversations with your date.
– Share your interests and passions with each other
A date is more than just about physical attraction, it should be mental compatibility as well. When you share your passions with each other, and what drives you, it builds a level of chemistry that simple talk cannot.
Discussing your passions allows you to know more about each other on a more personal level, and can also open up the opportunity for your date to admire something about you, and vice-versa.
– Give compliments to your date
Compliments are a way of appreciating not one, but multiple aspects of someone, and when you are on a date, it is imperative that you make it known to your date that they are appreciated by you.
A simple compliment can uplift the mood of your date and also adds to the level of intimacy between the both of you.
– Make and maintain eye contact
Eye contact is a way of expressing interest, and that you definitely want to show your date that you are interested in them. A lack of eye contact can show signs of low self-esteem and low self-confidence. Maintaining eye contact during your conversations with your date also helps in increasing the bond you share with each other.
– Show a genuine interest in your date
Allow your date to speak without any interruptions so that the conversation feels mutual and not one-sided. When your date talks about their day, or shares anything about themselves, make a mental note of that and be sure to elaborate on that later.
This way you are showing your date that you are interested in them and in conversing with them.
– Be respectful towards your date
Being polite and respectful towards anyone is a personality trait that can never go wrong. Respecting your date’s opinions and feelings is an underrated characteristic and yet is something that holds a great deal of importance in a relationship.
Try to understand and appreciate your date and be respectful towards what they are saying and feeling.
– Don’t be on your phone or constantly check your phone
When you are speaking with someone, it seems rude to be on your phone and scroll through your social media apps, or be chatting with someone else while you are on a date with someone.
When on a date, it is important to prioritize the person you are with and not use your phone at all – ideally.
– Don’t compare your date to your previous relationships
Dating is an experience and not a competition. Nobody likes to be compared in any aspect, and especially not with someone you have a romantic interest in. You should not have to make your date feel like they are lacking something your previous partner had.
– Don’t show that you are bored or complain
Something that is important to remember when going on a date is that you should not show that you are bored or complain about something that is going on. This will only seem unattractive and you might start to lose the person’s interest.
Being bored and having nothing to say can be just as bad and sends a message that you were better off alone. Try to focus on the time you have with this person rather than what is bothering you.
– Don’t show yourself to be someone you are not
A date could potentially turn into a life partner (you never know), which is why you should always be honest with your date and not pretend to be someone else just to impress your date.
Honesty builds trust and trust is the foundation of any relationship. Embrace your true self, and allow your date to appreciate who you really are.
– Don’t let yourself be the center of conversation constantly
Being on a date with someone means being supportive, not bossy. So when you are on a date with someone, do not make it about you as that can make your date feel ignored and unimportant.
Instead, work on listening to what they say and asking questions to learn more about them.
Following these tips should help you be more successful in your dating life as you know more about what to do and what not to do when conversing with your date. Yet, if you are looking for a little more help with your dating life, we can provide the best advice.
At CGull, our experts are constantly seeking out new ways to improve relationships between people. We can even provide pre-date coaching sessions that will prepare you to take the conversation anywhere it needs to go. Contact us today and we will talk about how we can get started setting up your personalized plan that works best for you!