She Wants You to Love Her Like a K-Drama
She pauses the show and asks why you don't love her like that. He just swam a mile through a freezing sea for her. Before you lose that argument, understand what she is really pointing at.
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What Dating in Singapore Is Really Like for Guys
Not the brochure, not the doom. What is actually stacked against a guy here, what is genuinely in your hands, and the one move that works when half the island is doing the opposite.
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Nice Guy vs Good Man
He is kind, loyal, attentive, and she keeps choosing the man who is none of those things. The reason is not that he is too good. It is that nice was never a virtue. It was a strategy.
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Dating Coach vs Pickup Artist
Same goal on the surface, opposite engines underneath. One hands you lines and routines; the other works on the man the lines come from. The honest difference, and which one you actually need.
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The Lie of Being Behind at 30
Everyone seems engaged, promoted, settled, and underneath it sits one sentence: I am behind. It is lying to you. Behind is a measurement, and you are using a ruler that was never yours.
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Successful at Work, Lost With Women
He runs the boardroom, then goes quiet in front of the woman he wants. It is not a flaw. It is the right skills in the wrong room, and the engine that built your career is exactly what fixes it.
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The World Will Tell You Who You Are
Unless you decide first. On identity as the cause, action as the echo, and why frame and charisma are only ever the visible edge of a man who already knew.
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Why she chose the bad boy. What you got wrong about being nice.
You met her. You were attentive. You did everything right. And then she chose someone who treated her noticeably worse. Here is what actually happened.
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Why approach anxiety is worst with the women you actually want
Most men can talk to anyone, until they meet a woman they want to talk to. Why work-confidence and friend-confidence do not transfer, and the kind of practice that does.
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The Matrix Is the Best Love Story for Men
Six Neos in the room. One walked left. The Matrix is the rare love story that fits the kinds of stories men naturally want to watch, where the love arc and the quest arc are the same arc.
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The Cost of Defending Your Ego
Defending your ego looks like strength. It is a tell that your identity depends on what other people say. Peace is the position that compounds.
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The Conversation Is Not the Point
Most men try to be a conversationalist by talking more. The real move is upstream: read the room, hold its tempo, lead what it feels. The talking is the smallest part.
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How a Story Earns Its Payoff
Most men think storytelling is having something interesting to tell. The harder skill is knowing what to leave in, what to leave out, and where the punchline has to land.
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Selling Yourself Right
We have been selling things to others our entire lives. It might not be as blatant as selling a product or service. But we have been educating our ‘warm market’ on how good the product is, why ev
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What Women Look For In ‘Porn’
The elements that men look for in women are vastly different from what women look for in men. The key here is not only to be aware of the elements and values that women are seeking, but also to b
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Earning Your Confidence
Confidence is not given, it is earned. And confidence can not be faked. It is an attribute whether you have it or not.
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Why having different personas is important
We all have different personas and social masks that we swap between on a daily basis, and it is catered to the objective and audience we are working with.
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Why we fear rejection and why it hurts us
Have you ever used a line, or something along the lines of “will you go out with me?”. Then as you anticipate the response from the lady, you feel your heart in your mouth, your heart races and e
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How to be calm on dates
This has been debated over and over again by many. And we get all kinds of responses from that. But one type of answer that has always echoed from the professionals from all over the world is - i
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The best pictures for your dating profile
Our dating profile has to be subject-worthy to hold a conversation, spark intrigue and show our character. We at CGull have the best tips and tricks on what kinds of profile pictures are the best
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Why PickUp Lines do not matter
This has been debated over and over again by many. And we get all kinds of responses from that. But one type of answer that has always echoed from the professionals from all over the world is - i
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The importance of Status
As guys, we have learnt that status would reward us with female choice and the ‘alpha male’ is the one with the biggest muscle that can beat up any incoming foe. And if we don't have the biggest
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Why Men Dont Cry
The issue we face in modern society with unemotional men is the byproduct of said society not giving men the license to feel.
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5 Things Girls Want Guys to Do on a First Date
Whether you're looking for a fun hike in the rough wilderness or a fancy evening out in a sophisticated restaurant, there are some basic rules of behavior. Even if things get more casual later on
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On doing the 'right thing' during dates
As modern men, we have heard the phrase “Be a man” multiple times throughout our lifetime. This ‘advice’ can come at us from various age groups, social circles and also from both genders. But usu
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Why She Likes Funny Guys
Across all languages, cultures and beliefs within humans, the 3 common ways of communicating are laughing, crying and screaming. These are innate systems in humans across all cultures that we are
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Manhood Initiations - A Man's Rite of Passage
Initiation into adulthood has been an age-old concept in the history of civilization, and has been present across most cultures through various customs. The rites of passage from boyhood to manho
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Men - You have to love yourself first
We all want to be loved by others. But at times we don't give them a fair chance to even like us. This is because many of us don't like ourselves in the first place. This negative perception rega
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Giving life to your conversations with Women
Conversations used to be the glue in having meaningful relationships, and social as well as professional interactions. A good heart-to-heart or a one-on-one worked wonders daily. It kept serious