There is no greater feeling in the world than finding the person you want to spend your life with. When you find that person, it’s natural to want to commit yourself to them fully. However, before making that final commitment, there are a few things you need to know. You need to be sure that this is the right decision for both of you and that you’re ready for the responsibilities that come with being in a relationship. Here are some questions to consider before taking the plunge:
Does this person have goals in life?
Who wants to date someone that’s got no ambition? Therefore, you’ll want to know what kind of life goals your potential partner has for themselves and is working towards them.
Some people value education and prefer to be with someone who has a degree, but in this day and age, you really just want to see if someone has a genuine plan for their life to be successful. Are they working? Are they attempting to advance in their careers? Are they well-organized in their daily lives? These are the questions, and it is vital to ask the right questions and pay attention so that you don’t put false expectations on a person who may not have had any.
How do they treat people?
How someone treats other people is a big indicator of how they will treat you in a relationship. Do they have respect for others? Are they kind and considerate? Or do they tend to be rude and dismissive? If they are rude, dismissive, or regularly put others down, it’s likely that they will do the same to you eventually. Don’t let yourself be drawn in by their charms only to be hurt later on. If you’re looking for a lasting, fulfilling relationship, it’s best to find someone who treats people well.
What happened in their past relationship?
No one enters a new relationship with the intent of hurting their partner – but before committing fully to someone, it’s important to be aware of what happened in their past relationship. Did they get hurt? Did they cheat? Knowing what went wrong in their last relationship can help you understand them better and how to deal with them in the right way.
Take the time to ask questions and get all the information you need, so there are no surprises down the line. By being aware of what took place, you can work to avoid these problems and have a successful relationship of your own.
Does this person practice good hygiene?
Nothing is worse than dealing with a person with poor hygiene. Consider whether the person you’re interested in has good hygiene habits. Poor hygiene can be a major turnoff and can also lead to health problems. If you’re not sure how good this person’s hygiene is, why not ask them directly? It’s better to know upfront.
Is this person still in touch with their exes?
Do not wait until you’re in a relationship to find out if an ex from the past is still hanging around. Ask questions to know what to expect. Don’t stay silent on the subject because you’re afraid of getting into a fight or because you don’t want to upset yourself. You should be aware of the situation you are in.
How is this person with the money?
This is not to say that you should only date someone with big pockets. Money is one of the biggest sources of conflict in relationships. So take a closer look at how and on what they spend their money. Are they ready to spend the money on you? You’ll want to know how someone spends their money so that you know what to expect in a relationship. Check to see if that person’s spending habits match your expectations.
Do they enhance your life, or complicate it?
It’s really as simple as: How does this person affect your mood? Your view of yourself? Your mental and emotional health?
Do they have the potential to enhance your life and make it more joyful, or do they seem like they would complicate things and add stress? Do they inspire you or discourage you? Do they bring drama or help you avoid it? Are they compassionate or distant when you are in need?
It’s worth taking some time to think about this before getting too emotionally invested. After all, a healthy relationship should make your life better, not worse.
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